You are not alone…


By Lindsay Pinchuk, Founder of Bump Club and Beyond

I am not sure when it happened, or how…but all of a sudden there is a third person living in my house.  My baby is no longer a “baby;” she is most definitely a toddler in every sense of the word.  She runs around screaming, laughs, blows kisses, and talks (or at least tries to, though she hasn’t mastered English yet.)  I don’t know where the time has gone.  With a blink of an eye, J has become a little girl!

Toddler J is more fun than she has been in all of her 17 months.  Spending the day with her, while tiring, is also thrilling.  We do everything together, and can’t get enough of one another.   And while this sounds amazing, everything is not cupcakes and unicorns all the time. Not by a long shot.

While my toddler is 99% a delight to be around, the 1% of her that is a terror is terrorizing.  She has become the pickiest eater, she pulls my hair and laughs, throws her entire lunch (and dinner) on the ground and all over my kitchen walls, and sometimes has a tendency to bite me and even her bestie.  The worst is when she straightens her entire body in protest when we go to leave the park.  She cries huge tears and all of the moms and  nannies turn around to check out the commotion. (I try to hide behind my sunglasses for fear that people are thinking, “That Bump Club Girl can’t even control her own kid.”) Since I never know when this side of her is going to come out, I often live in fear of the breakdown. Like I said, it can be terrorizing.

I’ve been asking my friends who have toddlers the same age, and we all agree, it must be their age.  But the question remains, what do we do about it?  I am a first time parent and have never dealt with this before.  What am I supposed to do when J lays down on the ground in a restaurant in protest of the high chair?  Or pulls all of the shirts off of a shelf in a clothing store.  Does she understand what the word “no” means?

I don’t know the answer to these questions, so I have decided to call in the big guns.  After completing her recent training in positive discipline, Janeen Hayward, Principle of Swellbeing, will be joining Bump Club and Beyond for a BCBU Seminar on Positive Discipline techniques.  I don’t know about you, but I personally cannot wait for this one—it can’t come soon enough!

The point of this blog post is to let you know that A) Moms: you are not alone in this one.  It’s not you, it’s not your child…most toddlers and kids go through some level of defiance, even before the reach the age of two.  B) We have your back and are doing something about it.

If you are reading this and know exactly what I am going through, I hope that you will join us for what is sure to be a fun and informative seminar on April 10, 2012 at Little Beans Cafe. Who’s up for swapping stories over cocktails afterwards?

Join Bump Club and Beyond on April 10, 2012, 6:30-9pm for their first BCBU: The Secrets to Positive Discipline and Parenting Techniques with Janeen Hayward of Swellbeing.